The shame and Humiliation of Selling your Novel - Author Elizabeth Eckert

The shame and Humiliation of Selling your Novel

  I am sitting in Tim Horton’s drive through feeling small and insignificant while the enthusiast within me scrambles to shine through.

I am trying to promote my novel today.

After reluctantly checking out my sales page for the zillionth time, I range from wanting to plan a gonna-sell-my-soul-to-the-devil escapade and become a world famous author to gonna-erase-all-social-media and burn my book.

It’s humiliating and shaming to plaster your creation full of blood, sweat and tears, on your wall hoping and not hoping it will shine first in the news feed of your friends and few followers. Praying they will not get annoyed and unfollow my persistent pleas for purchases.

Too many places to promote and market a book!

Then I tweet….yes, I now know how to tweet. I say “check out my page for inspirational blogs” and of course I am subliminally  begging for complete strangers to spend thier hard-earned money on yet another novel that has been released and is floating in the literary ocean.

I have a Pinterest account but am not yet sure how to pin or what you put on a board. I feel optimistic that when I trade my only free time to sleep, I will learn how to pin even more shameless requests of “Look at me! I wrote a book!”.

Instagram is for pictures and Linkedin is to follow other “Professionals”…. I don’t feel like a professional, I feel like a homeless person begging for change for a hot coffee. However, I will learn how to use these platforms too…. maybe.

Why can’t you just click once to promote your book everywhere?

Joining dozens of groups for Authors, Bloggers, social media gurus and those who have actually became successful with their works of written art is the easy part. And when someone makes it law that we have 30 hours days instead of 24 or I become a vampire, I will have the time to engage in conversation with these groups and hopefully learn some tricks to ease my promotion-induced suffering.

I am now exposed.

A once fairly isolated and private person, a hermit of sorts, now open to the world for dislikes, bad reviews, negative comments, dismisses and shame…. did I mention shame?

When a clump of dirt falls out of the bucket of an escavator the operator doesn’t go cry in his/her pillow. When a person puts a shirt back on the rack at Wal-Mart, the manager doesn’t order a 3-shot drink at the local pub. But when a writer puts a piece of themselves out into the raw and honest world of social media, they are exposed. Each post, tweet, pin and picture becomes a venue for despair or victory.

I have so much to learn! Thousands of terms, tricks, platforms, plugins and widgets. What a darling word… widget.

Promoting a book is painful, a hundred-hour-journey into the unknown, taking off layers of clothes for the world to comment and tweet your imperfections. Exposure to your life, dreams and personality.

Writing from your core is easy, creating a written world is courageous and combining all your characters, plots and climaxes into a book is out-of-this-world…

Promoting said novel is hell!

I will blog about parenting children with special needs, dog training, single parenthood, writing, the world of Psychology, Fibromyalgia, chronic pain, anxiety, loss, my publishing journey and other personal, raw, real and exposing topics because that’s what I live, know and relate to. I will promote and market my first and upcoming novels and I will feel shame and humiliation.

My novel will be promoted and sold (hopefully thousands of copies). I will carry on with my adventure 🙂

Lastly, I apologize in advance. I am promoting my book. When you see my many posts, tweets, pins and pictures remember that I apologized. If you can take a minute or two (I’d be honored), read a blog (you read this one), share my post, send me an inspirational comment (or just a hello) and write a review of my first novel so that I may perfect my second one.

I am promoting my book.


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  1. Elise Cohen Ho on September 15, 2017 at 12:34 am

    You have a great flair for writing. I think you will do quite well.

    • Elizabeth Eckert on September 16, 2017 at 7:28 pm

      I appreciate your very kind words Elise! 🙂

  2. Helen Carter on September 15, 2017 at 10:03 am

    You don’t need to apologise you’re worth just as much as other writers/authors (and more in my opinion).

    Your blog makes a good point though-it’s terrifying to open up -show publicly something that feels very personal.
    And as mundane as this sounds-it’s normal to feel that way.
    If you didn’t you wouldn’t have the self reflection and awareness that aids creativity.
    Maybe as an exercise for the spare vampire hours think about how you would advise a friend or family member who was worried about the same thing -you’re worth as much love compassion kindness and faith as they are.

    And also remember-a lot of people make their livings advertising -(POTUS hats in a crisis), you are sharing your work honestly and genuinely-and those who love it will enjoy it and those who don’t can pass by -it’s their problem if they then feel the need to criticise-you don’t have to choose to read it.xxxx
    Love from sunny England xx

    • Elizabeth Eckert on September 16, 2017 at 7:27 pm

      Thank you so much for your comment and advice Helen! Your words are so true! Must have thick skin for this business of writing 🙂 I will take your advice and become a self-compassionate vampire 🙂

      • Helen Carter on September 17, 2017 at 11:57 am

        Good thinking -I like it????Self compassionate vampire xx

  3. Shabdita Singh on September 15, 2017 at 7:29 pm

    So well written. And so much of it rings true for me. When did the number of likes start defining success? But it definitely does now. You have to promote your book/blog, you have to take good pictures, you have to add ‘tags’ and you slowly watch a small number of people ‘liking’ your creation, the one which came out from the very depths of your soul. I don’t understand social media and I probably never will. But you gotta play the game and live as the Romans do. So here we are connecting through facebook and social media! 🙂

  4. candy on October 10, 2017 at 12:24 pm

    First you have written and published a book. Way to go, something I certainly haven’t accomplished. Don’t ever be ashamed or shy about promoting something you have done.

    • Elizabeth Eckert on October 10, 2017 at 1:18 pm

      Thank you very much Candy!!!

  5. Corey | The Nostalgia Diaries on October 10, 2017 at 3:18 pm

    It’s a lifelong dream of mine to write a book, and I can only imagine how amazing it would feel to have that happen. But you have one published!! This, in and of itself, is so amazing to me! You’re an inspiration 🙂

    • Elizabeth Eckert on October 14, 2017 at 5:00 pm

      Thank you so very much Corey!!!
      I feel honored to be an inspiration to anyone 🙂 It is why I write! If I can write a book, You can too! Dont give up on your dream to be a published writer. I wrote my book 7 years ago and then one day decided to try and publish. Now I have a published book and am writing part two. It feels great, terrifying and exciting. What a journey!

  6. Amy | Loving Our Messy on October 11, 2017 at 12:29 am

    I so, so related to this post. I tell myself that what makes a person stand out from a crowd in this situation is persistence and confidence. Millions of people give up but you won’t!

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